Sunday, March 1, 2015

How being lazy can stop wars

Okay, so normally, that is not a phrase you hear. In fact, more often that not, being lazy is considered a bad thing. It's not good for your body to be too lazy, it can make people think you never do anything. But let me tell you how being lazy can actually be a benefit to us all.

To those of us who do stupid things... for example, meeting up with strangers at late hours, possibly to have sex. Go out looking for strangers for the same reason. Drug addicts who want to go out and get "wasted, or high.
Let me tell you something that a close friend told me: "Do the least you can do. Do nothing."
And boy, is he right. How the heck can you get into trouble when you are doing nothing. In fact, it's not only nothing. You get to relax, and be lazy at the same time.


War. I know this seems silly. People will say that war is complicated, and, when getting into the politics of it all, it can seem so. However, this is not the case. Once again, the solution is simple. DO THE LEAST YOU CAN DO. NOTHING! That's right. War can be stopped by laziness. (And, hopefully, the realization that war, in and of itself, is stupid, and that killing people and violence in general solves nothing.) Simply NOT WAR! Just don't do it.
I know some people might not agree with that, but, in my opinion, they are making it more complicated than it has to be.
I mean, what sounds better to you. Tons of innocent people being killed, (because, let's face it, usually it is civilians, children, families etc, that get killed, and not often the people we are going after.) OR, sitting behind a nice big desk, (in the case of the President.) Or perhaps at home, at your army base, or anywhere, and not actually, well, waring. (I know that is not a word, but you know what I mean.)
It really IS that simple.
(And, if I had to choose between not fighting, or violence... I choose not. Yes, if I HAD to defend myself, I would, but I prefer to not fight.)

So, what my friend said makes sense. Do the least you can do. Nothing. If you think you are going to get yourself into trouble, be lazy. Get some popcorn, watch a movie, fall asleep on the cough. The end.

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Love blinds us

Love blinds us all

I feel that this statement is all too true. Especially for someone like myself.
I am also sure that many others have encountered the same thing.
I feel that we end up in bad relationships for fear of being alone. Nobody wants to be alone, and therefor, we end up taking what is good at the time, what we need right now, but not what we really truly want.
I feel this is true for a few reasons.

Focusing on the good
We tend to want to focus on the good points about a person, rather than see the bad, and often times, the good keeps us in relationships we don't really want to be in.
If we see good things in a person, we want to latch on to those things, we use them as a comforter, as a way to blanket ourselves, to hide away from the bad parts of the other person or the relationship.

Hoping the bad will get better
Another thing I feel we tend to do, as human beings, is that when something goes wrong, or when things about the other person are not to our liking, or are just downright horrible, we tend to hope that with time, things will get better. rather than confronting the situation, and saying, no, this is not what I want or need in my life, we tend to want to give it more time. We go with the old cliché that "time heals all." That if we just give it enough time, things will sort themselves out. Even if we do confront them, which, in many cases can make things worse, if they weren't very good to begin with, time doesn't help.

Ignorance and denial
This comes in many forms.
First of all, ignoring others warnings that things may not be going to well, or that said person has problems.
Secondly, we tend to want to ignore problems, versus dealing with them, as stated before. If we ignore the problem, it will just go away.
We deny that any problem exists. Was it really a problem in the first place? Why bother worry about it anyway.
If we deny that there is a problem there, then the problem simply vanishes, right?
No.

True love too fast
This one I can definitely relate to the most.
You meet the person, and then you fall in love to fast. Touching on the first point, you see only the good in them, and fall in love quickly.
Over time, you come to realize that maybe it was not love, but a crush, or perhaps infatuation, and that the feeling has passed. But now you are stuck in a relationship you probably never wanted in the first place.
Even if you like the guy a whole lot as a friend, it's not quite what you are looking for.

Sure, you never want to have to hurt someone... but being blinded by love happens all the time. Its how you deal with it that's important.

Sometimes this is necessary
Nobody wants to be a jerk, downright rude, insulting, or even violent. But hey, once in a while the situation demands it. Sometimes it is beyond necessary to do such things as telling your partner it's over, and just walking away. Swearing at them, telling them they are wrong, assholes, stop, no, or even self defense. (But let's hope it does not come to that)

You do it for me
It's all to easy to say to someone else, why don't you do it for me. I don't have the guts. I don't want to hurt him myself.
I feel that this is way worse. Being honest, and doing it yourself is always a much better idea.

Stay
It is also easy to say to yourself, hey, let's not do it. I'll just stay in the relationship, it's not really that bad.
I think that this approach can just hurt both parties worse.

Now, these are just some examples. I feel that there could be many more.
But the truth is, love has blinded us all at one point or another. And if we got out alive, then we still have a lot more love we can offer the right person, versus being trapped with the wrong one.